Growing up we moved around. We moved enough that I was often asked if I was an army brat. No, my father was a school teacher. He just liked to move. I found it was so much easier if I kept to myself. Friendships were not something that happened easily for me. When socializing with other girls around my age, I found they were cruel. Boys, on the other hand, took you for who you were. Looking back I wonder if it was all a competition regarding mating….. hmmm….maybe. Anyways, that can be fodder for some interesting research. I did make a couple of really great friend along the way. Girls that I adored. Still adore 🙂 My chosen sisters. I had four of them J, D, B and T. You know the kind, the friend you may not see for a couple of years but when you get together the conversation and laughter flows…………….for hours! There is an ease unlike any other. Yep. Those were my girls.
Over the years through different events it seemed that I lost contact with my friends for good. One moved to the other side of the country, one moved to the States and the other two were living their lives. I was a bit heartbroken. Ok. I was heartbroken. Even though the contact had become infrequent I still considered these ladies to me a rock in my life. I tried to remain in touch. The one that moved across the country seemed to vanish. I kept searching and asking others about her. Finally, with the advent of Facebook, I found her again. I was elated! I wrote her a long message relating to her my joy of finding her again. No answer. She did ‘friend’ me, but she has moved on. I have lost a friend who was dear to me. I will always hold a spot in my heart for her and will reach out once in a while. She has a new life. She looks happy and adored by her new husband. I couldn’t be happier for her.
Over the last year I have managed to get back in touch with B and T as well 🙂 Time, our busy lives and distance make it hard to stay in touch. Hard but not impossible. We shall persevere!
Now J. J has been a part of my life from the time we were 10/11 yrs old. We have been through multiple iterations of our lives together. I took the silence from her end the hardest. For pete’s sake, we spent pretty much every waking hour together for 4 years. Until her family moved a few hours away. Then she ran away from home – to us! We shared a room together. Worked together. Went to school together. I couldn’t understand why our friendship would not endure yet another turn in our lives.
Well. Last week someone finally joined Facebook. Yes. I was her first person search! We had a lovely video chat and spent quite a while catching up 😀
I have my girls back ❤
I have been making some more wonderful friendships over the last couple of years. They may be online friendships but they too have meant a lot to me. I was blessed with meeting with a few of these ladies last week. Yes. Flesh and blood not just online. You know what? They are wonderful, sweet people, just as they are online.
You know when things in your life just start to mesh? Things fall into place?
I know I am on the cusp of wonder. I look forward to it and am ready to embrace it.